As the boys are getting older the time that we spend together just the five of us is very rare and precious. Today was one of those days. I told the boys that I wanted us to go and take some family photos hoping that I would get one or two good enough for a Christmas card. The ones you see are the ones I am not using. I did manage to get a couple of the three of them. We went out to Veteran's Park and Ebeneizer's Swamp Preserve. After snapping the camera for a while Ana Claire was tired of and told me no more. She made sure of that by pulling up dress and showing me her panties. We couldn't have asked for a more beautiful day. We come home and straightened up some and had a nice dinner together and even watched a movie together.
One thing that did happen to me today was something that would make all adoptive parents cringe. I took Ana Claire to the restroom and a lady with two kids came in behind us. One child was a toddler and the other looked to be about 9 or 10. This was our conversation.
Woman: Where did you get her? She sure is cute.
My response: She is from China, as I pushed AC into the stall.
Little girl: Are you her momma?
My response: Yes, I am her mother.
Little girl: No, your not. She looks Mexican or something.
My response: Yes, I am her mother she is adopted from China.
Little girl: Where are her real parents? Did they not want her? Did they just give her to you?
At this point Ana Claire's eyes were as big as silver dollars. I just told the little girl I was her mom and she was my daughter and I tried to get AC out of the restroom as quickly as possible. I knew there would be questions from this. You could see her wheels turning. Now I wanted to tell this little girl to quit being so nosey, but I know she was just being curious. I thought of several things I could have said.
A friend of mine had shirts printed up with the verse, Job 13:5
If only you would be altogether silent! For you, that would be wisdom.
I wish I would have been wearing my shirt today and the little girl would have understood that she needed to keep her mouth shut.
For those of you wondering. The lady was still in the restroom while the girl was asking the questions. She did tell her once that is enough questions, but it didn't stop the child from asking. Ana Claire knows that she is from China and she is adopted. She also knows that she come from a Chinese woman's tummy. Ana Claire has asked me why the girl asked me if I was her real mommy. To Ana Claire I am her REAL mommy, and in my heart I am her REAL mommy. There is a dear sweet soul that gave birth to my daughter and for that I am forever grateful that she chose to give her life. Her loss was my blessing. I pray that her birth mother has peace with the decision she had to make and that God has given her peace in her heart that her daughter is safe, very loved, and thriving. I have tried to explain this to Ana Claire when she has asked questions in a way that she can understand, but when someone asks questions like that in front of her it has to confuse her.
I do hope that the woman took the time to explain to the little girl that some of her questions were rude and inappropriate. There are some questions you just don't ask a stranger know matter how nosey you are.